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Mary Arif

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Arif (Hammond), Mary

December 24, 1924 - November 30, 2019

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People often say that the best things come in small packages. That was true for Mary Arif.  In a small, sweet, and selfless package she could be found. With a laugh rich with joy and a smile that made you feel important and cared for, she truly was the “best thing”.   Though she may have seemed like the average woman to so many, to those who knew her she was a superhero… a woman who took care of those whom she loved, a woman who stood up for what was right, a woman whose children and grandchildren would grow to appreciate and admire her more and more with every passing hour.

She didn’t know she was seen as a role model, though. Or if she did, she stayed humble through it.  In her later years, her dementia had taken over many things that she was once best known for. Her amazing memory and stories were gone.

As time moves on, we often lose parts of history; the names of those who have passed on are forgotten, stories aren’t remembered and details are lost in translation. We see it so often with ancient civilizations and even mere decades in the past can be forgotten. But to see it happen in the mind of a loved one right before your very eyes is difficult and heartbreaking.  Watching Mary lose her memory wasn’t easy for anyone but what brings us comfort is that a person, though so often assumed to be the sum of their parts and memories, is more than that.  A person is who they are when no one is looking, who they are when they have power and the way they choose to use it. They’re the soul beneath the skin, and the love in their hugs. They are more than just the sum of their parts.

 

 

Though Mary may have forgotten many things in her old age — her family names, where she was, and where her glasses went — the amazing woman before us all never changed.  She never forgot who she was. And we will never forget either.

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From: Margaret Mayes
Relation: Mother in law

My dear Mary was such a special caring lady. I am so happy to have had the best Mother In Law who ever lived. She always put her family first, always. She would give up things for herself to see her family have the extras. She was a truly amazing lady, one I looked up to and admired . Education was so important to Mary and she left her grandchildren a lasting legacy of the gift of education.
I will keep her in my heart and as long as memory lasts , I will remember her with much love. Always in my heart,

From: Nancy Croft
Relation: Just read the obituary and it brought tears to me

Just read “Mary’s “ it brought tears of joy to my heart. I’m sorry for your loss

From: Janna Jelen
Relation: Her daughter Mary's friend

We are deeply saddened by your loss of your mother. May our friendship and prayers ease you through this difficult time. She will forever be with you in your fond memories. A person that departs from this earth never truly leaves, for they are still alive in our hearts, through you, they live on. Sincere condolences to you and your family. Thinking of you.

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